Have you ever felt controlled by your Boyfriend / Girlfriend / Partner? How?

Each one of us has a story to tell… of experiencing, witnessing, participating in violence emerging from gender.

I'm in my mid-20s and in a wonderful relationship of two years with a man I love more than I thought possible. Before him, I was in a terrible relationship with an older man for almost four years. That relationship was primarily sexual. It was also emotionally and sometimes physically abusive. I got counseling and thought I was over it. My grandfather, whom I was very close with, died recently, and I was unable to travel to my family's home at the time of his death. My boyfriend was also out of town. I sought comfort in the worst possible place, with my ex. I feel terrible and will never cheat again. That night, I lost a pair of diamond earrings my mother had given me. I was overjoyed when my ex texted me that he found them. I said I'd pick them up, but his condition was that we have sex. I refused, and he said that he would mail them. It's been over a month. I haven't gotten the earrings, and he hasn't responded to calls, texts, or e-mails. The earrings have sentimental value, but I don't want to compromise myself or my relationship for them.

my boyfriend used to enjoy his drink a lot! he and his friends would drink almost everyday!! i would also be a part of these drinking sessions!! we would all get drunk together and it was considered cool and hip!! sometimes unpleasant things would happen when we were drunk!! my boyfriend would start kissing me in front of everyone!! he would touch me and when i tried to tell him to stop he would just go on!! his male friends would also be present when this would happen!! i felt uncomfortable and when i tried talking to him he would just say that he was drunk and so was everyone else and no one was watching or cared!!
i felt violated and disgusted with myself!! i was being made a fodder for some sleazy men's voyeuristic appetite!! i just made a complete fool of myself infront of everyone!! i of course broke up with this guy!!

My boyfriend used to emotionally blackmail me. I still feel traumatized to think about my past..because he would threaten to break up with me if I refused to be physically intimate with him. Having a sexual relationship was all that mattered to him and he would get aggressive or moody if I didn't give in to his demands which in turn would make me feel guilty. I finally decided to call it quits with him.

I am not allowed to go for films with boys. Or with girls. only with him. because he wants to kiss me in the dark.